8 year old, having difficulty dealing with her empathic abilities…

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My daughter, 8 years old, is having extreme difficulty dealing with her empathic abilities at school during the day. My empathic abilities were largely stifled by my parents and family as a child- I was taught to suppress rather than cope- and I don’t feel I have any more suggestions to offer her (i.e. I’m out of my league). She comes home saying things like “Nathaniel choked Elia at school and it made my throat hurt” and “When the kids get out of control and yell, it makes my whole body hurt”. She wants to bang her head against the wall at times when such occurrences happen and I worry that if she does not find some coping skills and FAST that this will develop into self injurious behavior. She has no other problems in school socializing or following directions, though concentrating does seem to be an issue. She recoils at the thought of us pulling her from school and homeschooling because she genuinely *wants* to be there. We’ve tried teaching her to ground herself and put a protective bubble of light around herself, and this works at home, but not at school with all the input she receives. Crystals? Homeopathy? What helps extremely sensitive children in these situations?

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This is a very interesting situation. Obviously you have a gifted daughter, what advice I might give you, could easily be contrary to what a professional therapist would suggest. One thing for sure, your daughter needs someone who can “see” on her level. Whether or not, you can be that person, in her life, will take time to unfold.

There are two ways to go. 1- encouraging her empathic abilities, in which case you’d end up being a coach. Or 2- teaching her ignore her empathic perceptions, which is what most of us were taught. The deciding factor must of course be her ability to keep focused. Find out which way allows her to do better– as in get better grades in school. I’m not sure which way would be better but if you try both, I’m pretty sure you’ll find one path is clearly more productive.

If that leads away from developing her emapthic abilities now, it’s a small sacrifice for the essential survival skills she is now leaning, know as education. Her empathic abilities will never go away, if she has to ignore it, for the time being, don’t worry. There will be a continual outpouring of other opportunities as she gets older.

For now, you’re going to coach her. I’m sorry. But I don’t think your current tack will be successful. Teaching her to shield herself with a protective bubble of light, or “grounding” herself, my heard by her, as nothing more than confusing rhetoric. Even adults who have dealt with this all their lives don’t have the visualization skill to do this effectively; which would require holding multiple visual images in the minds eye, then manipulating those images to produce the desired effect, and then– continue doing so, until it’s a familiar habit. No. I don’t think she is ready for this.

Try this. Just be honest with her. Tell her, she is seeing and feeling things that other people don’t, because she’s special. And while it may be difficult for her now, thanks to her special abilities, she’s going to be very successful. You don’t need to use those exact works. Say it any way you want. She will grab onto the idea that she is special. Once she believes that, then at least during these empathic occurrences, she will always be aware that not everybody shares her perceptions.

Also, if you have to discuss this with any other adults, it would be better NOT to mention empathy, or even being highly sensitive. As neither are admirable. Put it in your mind that your daughter may have a higher IQ than most children. A concern expressed from that point of view, would be much better received by other adults, and will likely get many more people on her side, which will only reinforce her positive growth.

Maybe a music teacher might be helpful.

the philosopher’s stone, a goose that lays golden eggs, and money to do the “great work”

> I am also interested in the “Mutus
> Liber” the “Mute Book” the silent
> pictorial book of alchemy that teaches one
> through art illustrations how to do the
> “great work” or how to create the so-called
> philosopher’s stone. Are you into this subject
> matter?

The great-work is a philosophical concept regarding the concept of a messiah– or as the Buddhists say, the Bodhisattvas. The idea of taking an oath, to dedicate one’s life, and every action, to assisting others… until EVERYONE who wants to be self realized, is. No matter how many life times it takes.

And while I am not familiar with the “mute book,” I am well aware of the concept of the Philosophers Stone, where it is theoretically possible to turn lead into gold. It’s just an analogy though, as I suspect the mute book is. Today– though– in this modern world, there DOES exists something that appears to be this “mute book” you spoke of, which… if you learn, DOES for all practical matter, become a true Philosopher’s Stone. Or as it has also been know as a goose, of sorts, that lays real golden eggs.

Yes, once you tune in, there are thousands of geometric associations, to bestow in wonder. These are all presented to you, in you minds eye, in full color, as clear a any photograh you might hold in your hand. But these artful illustrations MOVE, ever so slowly, as you look at them. Yes, they are quite magical, and if you look at them long enough, you’ll see REAL money– huge sums will pass before your eyes, every day. Study these illustrations. This is REAL money that you can put in your pocket. Gold in fact is very heavy, but thank God we live in a modern world, so you can keep all YOUR wealth online.

Let me tell how to find these mute illustrations of power. I will show you the technique to find them in your minds eye. They will always be clear. It is up to you to spend time each day, watching them– understanding their mute colors and hidden geometry. Eventually, you will learn their every dance– when you can safely approach– and when they may hurt you, to stay away. This is THE modern day Glass Bead Game, discussed at length in Herman Hess’s Pulitzer Prize winning novel, Magister Ludi. Eventually, as you learn the dance, you can literally hold out your hand, as if it were under a waterfall of money, and THERE, collect by request as much money as you see fit, to further your efforts in assisting or completing the great work.

Oh yes. There are already LOTS of people who are practicing this discipline. They congregate online. To them it is a game. We share techniques and strategies, but as a matter of integrity, we never discuss the actual money we get from this mute book.

Here is the link if you’d like to join: FINDING THE PHILOSOPHER’S STONE

> I have been studying more about the Qabalah and
> the Tree of Life. A friend of mine sent me a
> deck of Tarot cards called the “Tarot of
> the Sephiroth. I do not know if you are into Tarot
> or other things like Sacred Geometry, but I
> find them interesting and enlightening.

Yes, I used the Rider deck for many years. Then for decades, decks of my own design. Eventually, as I got old, I tired of shuffling, so now I just watch the mute illustrations.

> Remember you have a friend who is interested in
> what you have to say.

Thanks. I appreciate your interest.

telepaths & clairvoyants using affirmations to manage synchronicity and coincidence

> I need your advise how NOT to be afraid and how to deal
> with this increasing energy-clairvoyance in me.. I just feel
> a bit scared since the increase is so vast and in every aspect.

When you push far enough, or more aptly, hold on long enough, your empathic tendencies become telepathic. The difference being, that one requires the presence of the individual, the other requires only a picture in your minds eye. And of course it is always easiest to be telepathic with those who are similarly charged.

But you asked about fear and clairvoyance. Pushing yourself to your limit, going further than you have before; when days and nights almost start to blend together and you begin to question which one is which, there– at that point– that’s when the clairvoyance kicks in. Clairvoyance is just a channel selector for your telepathic abilities. In this realm, it is not just day and night that meld together, but time itself. And with practice you learn to distinguish the purely lucid from the precognitive.

As for fear. There should always be fear when you push yourself to your limits, for as you do, you are always given more power of discernment and direction. The more often you visit these new unfamiliar places, the more familiar they become, and the easier it is to avail yourself of, or simply channel, these new powers of travel and perception.

Yes, it is daunting to come face to face with synchronicity and the ability to direct these coincidences. New empaths, still facing such basic obstacles of responsibility and finding some mediative technique that works consistently, cannot go there. But even they, now in their inexperienced interest, can with very little effort learn to direct synchronicity. While they may not be able to consciously get themselves there; as they happen to find themselves there, as is often the case, when they do– when coincidneces are prevalent– that is the time to make an effort to direct them. Very little effort can produce startling results.

This is in fact the whole area of affirmations. Many say affirmations or prayers don’t work for them. Either they are not charged or centered enough, or they have no idea how to construct a simple affirmation. Don’t ask for material things, especially those that are not at all likely to be presented to you. It is always best to start by asking for signs. These are very easy to get, as there is always an uncertainty and vagueness about how they will appear. Do not be phased by your inability to interpret the signs as they arrive. Just make a mental note of each one. Write them down if you dare. If you have any doubt about a sign’s true meaning, they simply disregard it.

It is a great misnomer that an opportunity missed can never be gotten back again. If you are destined to be or do something, then you will continually receive signs and opportunities leading you in that direction, at least until something or someone changes your destiny.

So… you make an affirmation by saying to yourself something like, “I’m not going to make a decision until I see a sign point one way or the other.” Then you must keep that in the back of your mind for a while, attentively waiting and watching for that sign. In time you may get bored and forget to watch, but by that time your subconsicous mind has taken the suggestion, and will be watching for you.

This process of using affirmations to direct synchronicity is an essential technique for any telepath. Sometimes it may take days for the sign to appear. If you are charged enough– to the point where you are are seeomg a cascade of coincidences, responses to your affirmations can appear in a matter of minutes.

who’s who in your lucid dreams and nightmares

> in my experiences. The hardest thing I’ve dealt
> with I think is the reoccurring dreams and
> severely disturbing nightmares to the point
> where I walk in my sleep. I see people in my
> dreams that I know I’ve never met before and
> about half the time they’re dead or being
> killed. I’ve gone so far as researching missing
> persons records because the dream has been so
> traumatic I don’t stop thinking about it for
> days. The last time this happened I actually
> woke up dry heaving over the edge of my bed….
> I’m not sure how to take my dreams, if you have
> any input it’s always appreciated : )

As for the reoccurring dreams, the most important aspect to understanding these, is whether or not you’ve been having them all you life. Have they always been disturbing like this, or have these violent dreams only recently started. Chances are they have not been there all your life.

Don’t bother trying to find these individuals in public records. From my experience, these kinds of Lucid dream– those that wash into your waking state for days one end– these individuals are always from your local city or community. It could be a simple as a club you frequent. Someone there could have their eye on you. However you choose to interpret these dreams, they are a warning sign. Keep a calender with all the places you frequent and the days these dreams occur. If you do this, you’ll be surprised to find a correlation.

I myself have a very active dream life. There are places and individuals that I frequent often, very much like I do in my physical life. I’d even go so far as to say, in the lucid dream world, I have long standing relationships and responsibilities.

When I was single, a lot of my lucid relationships were with single women. I spent many years experimenting– trying to find these people in the physical world. Eventually I did figure out a technique. I called it picking-up-women-on-the-astral-plane. It was not easy– and happened once a month at best, but here’s what I learned. The faces of these individuals, in your lucid dreams, or even in your minds eye, never ever match up with the faces of the corresponding people or host bodies in the physical world. It is as though we all wear masks in our dreams, so it is really impossible to recognize someone at the grocery store or on the bus by looks alone, or what ever places you regularly frequent.

A good experiment for you would be to take a vacation for a couple of weeks. Go somewhere else, or if this is not possible, stay home. Do not go anywhere. Act as if you’re grounded. If you isolate yourself in this way, and the dreams diminish, then it is certainly energy and visions of anonymous by standers who sees you on a regular basis.

If these dreams of violence have been happening all you life, other possibility is that you yourself have some aspect of your own character that attracts these energies. Some call them spirit guide. The young and abused often, for the sake of their own sanity, instinctively evoke guardian spirits. This happens when they are in extreme pain, to cope. These guardian spirits become aspects of their character, and very often, the guardian sprit that protected them well as a child, becomes counter productive, or problematic, as an adult.

Oh. I just noticed you’re a massage therapist. Ask yourself who these disturbing images could be coming from? Your gut reaction is probably right. It may take some time to distance yourself from this individual, but one you recognize them, and make the decision to cut them out of your life, they’ll pick up on that, and allow you to slowly step back. Then as you continue this process of slowly stepping back, eventually you’ll be able to break off the relationship without any repercussions.

And lastly, let me suggest this. If you are ever feeling threatened at night, you may find relief by sleeping with a lite candle. In the worst situations, where I knew I was the under psychic attack, I’d dice garlic until the aroma filled my bedroom. For some reason, that acrid air act as a very effective shield. That always works.

Kabbalah, Qabalah, Cabalah: defined as symbol-sets based on archetypes used to communicate with God. One God, by countless names, the world over.

The Latin alphabet as used in English, offers a convenient symbol set. It is especially handy because it can be typed into a post. I once used a made up symbol set of my own unique characters. It was fun. It worked well… but everything had to be hand written.

For instance, using Shiva’s A-Z symbol set, a random word might be: DEGO

Thus, random word, DEGO, make sense to Shiva, or anyone else knowledgeable of his A-Z interpretation. If you have reference to the meanings of each of the A-Z keys, you could figure it out, what DEGO meant, but that’s not really reading.

These were originally listed in the first post of a thread in the mySpace Kabbalah group.

Shiv’s interpretation is, in a primal sense, due to the fact he is attempting to summarize the entire universe in a concise archtypical set, an intrepretation of the Kabbalah. Not the historic Jewish Kabbalah, but the living Cabalah, as a dynamic and evolving system of thought. It is very much like the instrument of a musician. Or the words used by world leaders. They knowing nothing of historical Kabbalah, yet, they each in their own way, have defined a unique symbol sets; and learned to use these unique words in a way helpful and pleasing to others.This way, they each are masters of their own destiny.

A musician has a perception of sound that is easy accessible to them– something that works for them. In music it is called a style. A politician has a set of principals, which he has learned to convey effectively.

And yes, the politician’s symbol set is certainly biased and lope-sided, but his technique of reaching-out-and-serving and representing groups of people, is very much employing the techniques of Cabalah. We of course are not so materialistic. We strive to construct our archetypical symbol-sets more altruistically. In this way we seek to align ourselves with God; his will; and the future. In God’s eye’s the future is history.

Whether you are a Cabalist, a musician, or a politician; when your efforts are in sync with the will of God, God is there, always ready and willing to lend a helping hand or an encouraging word.

Now… once a symbol set is constructed, the next step is to put it to memory. Once that is done, then you can write in your new language. You take notes, and in doing so you are learning to read the language. But speaking in this language is another matter, for these words are never spoken verbally. These symbol set-languages are all tried and proven methods for communicating with God. One God, by countless names, the world over.

It’s a special language, which is learned differently than a spoken language. A child first learns to 1- speak, then 2- read, then finally 3- write. A Cabalist first learns to 1- write, then 2- read what they have written, and finally 3- speak without reading. It is nothing less than the language of God, which historically, has always been the power of the Kabbalah.

stupid pathways and idiotic sephirotic names

> I have been studying Qabalah for about three years…
> My soul, is chained by it’s stupid pathways, ridiculously idiotic
> sephirotic names, and an insulting lack of intelligence.

I know what you mean. I’ve been at it for 32 years. That book, The Mystical Qabalah, by Dion Fortune, is almost as puzzling as the original Kabbalah. That’s why I teach the Cabalah, which is a plain English interpretation. No Hebrew letters or words here. No cryptic codes to break.

When the Qabalah first appeared, around 1900, as the first written interpretation of the Kabbalah, it was startling and monumental, in that what had previously been an Jewish secret (oral tradition) for thousands of years, was suddenly available in print. When the dust settled I’m sure the old rabbis had a good laugh. They probably said, “Good luck figuring it out.”

Well… it may have taken a 100 years, but I think I’ve got it. And now in this day and age, anything can be discussed frankly. The spelling, Cabalah, is my own, which distinguishes my interpretation from the Qabalah and the Kabbalah. The 10 Sephirah became the 10 Challenges and the 4 worlds became the 4 Steps of Creation. It’s very orderly. I don’t pull any punches. I say right out how, sexual energy is transformed into magnetic energy and eventually light.

What first starts out as an awareness of sexual energy, becomes magnetic energy when others take notice of, and are attracted to your very pretense. When you start using that magnetic energy to help others, then it is healing light that you are manipulating. I go through all this step by step.

But my first book didn’t do that well. I printed 100 copies. After a year, it became clear; that for me to gain any kind of authority, I would have to constantly be defending myself against old school Kabbalists, who believed theirs was the only true doctrine. I spent half my time proving myself– over and over again– going from one group after another, talking more about correlations between old and new, than anything new or practical.

It’s very disturbing, because my teachings are above all else, practical. I say, if a belief cannot bring joy to you today, or strength to you, when you need it, toss it! Kabbalah is not a book. The Jews don’t own it. It’s just a force of nature than can be understood an there by harnessed. It’s like pi, fractals, or the theory of the subconscious mind.

Yes, there is certainly a new truth to behold… and I believe it is provable scientifically. Well…we’ll see. At this point, I’m so fed up with defending my “interpretation” that I’ve decided to forgo the whole Cabalah label completely. I’m just going to use another name, of my own choosing. I’ve been thinking about this for over a year. And now… I know it is the right thing to do.

Sasha and my Early Qabalah days

> I’d like to know why you came to choose the system
> you now use to operate in your daily life?

When I was in my 20’s I took the whole hippie doctrine to heart, and spent many years traveling from teacher to teacher, learning what ever I could, looking for some great secret wisdom. I was a silversmith back then; living and traveling in camper van, always rolling in to a new town with my tank near empty, and only change in my pocket. This was the norm for me, and more or less, what I was comfortable with. I always knew, in a few days, or a couple of weeks at worse, I’d sell enough jewelry and be able to leave… if I wanted to.

One warn winter, in Tucson, Arizona, I was introduced to this an elderly woman named Sasha. She wanted me to pay for Qabalah lessons. I objected, telling her, “None of my other teachers asked for money!”

She assured me that if I took her “lessons” I would earn much more money– and I’d easily be able to afford the lessons. I took her up on her challenge… and sure enough… within a couple of weeks, I meet Simon, who agreed to purchase all the jewelry I could produce. And so… twice a week for about a year, I visited with Sasha where she taught me from the book, the Mystical Qabalah by Dion Fortune.

I’ll never forget the last time I saw her. She told me, “Someday you will no longer travel to find new teachers. You will be able to look within and find as many teachers as you want.”

She also said, “There is nothing more for me to teach you.”

At the time, I didn’t understand what she meant by finding teachers within, but the part about having taught me all she could, made me feel really good. It was as though she knew I was leaving before I uttered a word.

So to answer your question. I don’t think I really choose the Qabalah. It choose me.

My love for Swami Vivekananda’s teachings, and all he taught me about Karma and Raja yoga, before I was introduced to Qabalah, has never diminished. But it was the Qabalah that provided me the my first glimpse of that “secret wisdom” that I so diligently sought.

Sure, the Qabalah is many things to many people, but the one thing that distinguishes it from other disciplines, is this skill of being able to look within to find reliable teachers. It took many years, but sure enough, it is, just as Sahsa said, “You will be able to look within and find as many teachers as you want.”

That’s what her lessons were really about. At the time, a lot of what she taught me didn’t make sense. But over the years, slowly all the pieces are fitting together. Now, having lived over 20 years, with these “inner teachers” the mechanics of all this, is always plainly evident. So much so, that it is very easy for me to teach to others. It’s all about telepathy. And… this blog is my attempt to reach out and offer others… and offer them the same lessons I received… when I was young.

Note to blog reader: This post is completely different format from my usual Q&A posts. If you like this story format better, do leave a comment.

Paul Zozem
zozem.com

light body calastenics, genies, meditative ruts

> their presence gets so intense that I panic and can’t meditate at all.

Sounds like you already know the remedy is some form of meditation. No doubt you already have some skills in this area.

There is technique of meditation that you already know about. An ideal technique for these kinds of situations. Let me provide you with a review. You simply need to build and maintain a strong center.

Meditating for 20 minutes a day twice or a day, OR even for hour hours a day, every day, still misses the mark. Eventually you will want to take your meditative skills and build a strong center. Meditative skills are like tools. Use these tools to build yourself a house of light. This is often called a light body. And the door to that house of light… is your center.

Almost anything can be used as a center. You breath, your hands, a image in your minds eye, even an inanimate object like a ring or necklace. Be careful though with those material objects, least you end up someone’s genie. I digress.

Lets me use the breath as an example, since that is the most common technique of meditation. Instead meditating for an hour a day, you meditate for 1 minute 100 times a day. This is called a center. Periodically throughout your day you CONTINUALLY come back to your breath. Even if you have a busy work schedule, you’d be surprised at how often you can spare a minute. How many breaths can you count in a minute. Make that your basis.

In this way, your meditative state is always ready at hand, to provide you with a moment of clarity or relief from some stressful situation. In time, as you build a stronger and stronger center, it becomes a part of you– like a piece of clothing. Some call it a light body.

Ordinarily when meditating, it takes a while to get into a deep meditative state. The longer you work with a center, the quicker it is to get into that the proper state.

In the beginning you will need to initiate your focus on your center. When your center or your breath calls out to you, reminding your to initiate focus, then you know you are making real progress.

Tantra and Telepathy

> Does masturbation count as “sexual activity”?

The MOST IMPORTANT aspect is to “see” this energy as being quantitative. Each morning you wake up. Look around, and what ever is there. That’s what you’ve got for the day. As to what degree of activity diminishes your level, this should be obvious through experimentation. Without getting to graphic, let me just say, a little sip of water can sometimes take you a great distance.

> I find that when I work on deep intimate levels with
> another being I feel drained and so deeply connected
> to that person that I no longer have the perspective and
> clarity to be able to further my own metaphysical
> education. But I don’t necessarily feel that they
> are diminished,”

Yes. Your light energy is passing to them. You become them. Your energy supports them. You work momentarily stalls, but that is okay because they are uplifted, if that is what you intended. Even though everyone tries to be equal, light energy usually flows from one partner to the other. Before equality can is reached both must be able to assess their own energy level, and then that of others.

Sometimes I sit at the mall and watch all the people go by. I can “see” exactly how much light energy each person carries, as clearly as their hair color. Every once in a while, some psychic or spiritually evolved person will walk by, no matter how they are dressed, with the glance of eye, we each recognize each others conscious level of light. A subtle smile– a telepathic high five– and the crowd moves on. Why do I tell you this? To emphasize that the most important step, is to be able to “see” this energy quantitatively. From day to day, as you awake, you should always know whether you have progressed or slipped back.

> My question is, then, Is there a way to integrate these
> two processes? The deep union of two people coming
> together in sexual expression with the personal journey
> of nurturing one’s own psychic abilities? I haven’t yet
> learned this secret- I am curious if others have any
>wisdom to share.”

Couples working together for a shared goal– that’s an unconscious Tantra. As for conscious Tranta, no one can go one indefinably. But if you can share goals and milestones, it may seems so.

> I have found in about 20% of my students that it is quite
> the opposite, that the more sex the person has the more
> energy he/she is able to activate, control, and utilize.
> Typically these students are female, but I have seen
> such differences manifest in one or two males.

As for, “the more energy he/she is able to activate,” I see this. Yes. But you’re talking a different kind of energy. While we’ve been talking about saving up all this light energy, we have yet to discuss the many possibilities of spending this energy. Each has their place and time. If you’re going to go before a crowd, you want to have as much saved up as possible. If you’re composing a song, or painting a canvas, you can easily get stuck, unless you’re willing to spend a little.

Note: These Q&A questions were not from the same person. They all arrived within one or two days of each other. I try to put them together into an interesting post.

Is it true?

> Is it true that the Medieval Kabbalist, “Rambam” Moses
> Maimomides was a hater of Gentiles and declared that
> women should be forbidden to study Kabbalistic texts?
> Also do you know where I could find the Adin Steinsaltz
> version of the Talmud? Or the authoritative book “Tanya”?

All these questions pertain to historical data. It is though you are trying to the find one true book. A book you can believe; a book with the answers you need. I’m sorry, I can’t help you with this. I am not an enthusiast of history.

Don’t restrict yourself. Open yourself up to any and all practical knowledge you can accumulate. Do not be concerned where it comes from OR even trying to decide whether or not it is true or authentic. IF… IF IT CAN ADD TO JOY to your day, today, or BRING YOU STRENGTH WHEN YOU NEED IT, tomorrow, then keep it. MAKE IT YOUR OWN.

Everything else is unnecessary. That’s just my perspective.